Lessons From A Break-up

Recently, I have had the worst emotional turmoil of my 22-year old life. We finally broke up with a closure typed in a message in facebook. How personal and deep was that. From the moment that I read the message the following thoughts magnified in my mind: to quit school because I am miserable; to quit my work because I am miserable and to start increasing my alcohol intake and adding up the cigarette I smoke because I am miserable. I almost, well, I begun doing them all. Then all of a sudden, family and friends were appearing out of the blue to help me save me. I am well now. Although not completely healed but I am getting there.

These are the lessons from a broken heart.

1. Let yourself drown in anguish. Let her grieve and be melancholic. Let her stare at an empty blank space with the hope that he will appear there. For once, allow sadness to take the reins of your emotions. But never make a decision during this phase. Just be sad and go away from the thoughts of ruining your life.

It is enough that you cry, while lying on your bed, while walking, while eating, while taking a bath or while doing any other things.

2. Do something for yourself. Focus on yourself. Why? Because you were rejected. You were let down. Thus, you are now in the lowest time of your life. A good friend told me that they can only offer advises, be there and cry with you. The part of making you rise after this fall solely depends on you.

Know, that he will not come back. People do not come back for miserable people- Myrchael. So when become tired from crying, stand up and go do something.

3. The biggest mistake you have done is to love him more than what he deserves. You focused on maintaining a relationship more than what is enough. You deprived yourself from yourself.


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Being broken hearted is, as known by all people who fell in love, a very bad phase. But then, it is just a phase, people who shared their pains with me told me that it will get better. I realized now that it is better.

I love what I just did. I went shopping then, I went to the spa. It was the greatest thing I did for myself. I loved it. I realized some man is not enough to destroy me or even bother me for that. My mistake was I failed to create a strong post of myself so that when people come and go I will not be moved. Your mistake was you failed to prove the words always and forever. Burn the letters for that.