Online Dating

Recently, I tried the app Tinder just out of curiosity. I admit that I have judged users before because I am an advocate of physical human interaction. I also believe that love does not come from first sight on a picture biased on one's preference of how to be perceived at first impression. 

I told my friends about it and I was judged right then and there. The words "yuck" and "eww" are still ringing in my ears. I brush the judgmental cuss words off and understand that people are entitled to their opinion and I have a vast space for a lot of understanding.

The app showed that it is the safest haven for one's insecurities. It was basically designed to attract a mate who will like you based on what you want them to see. The pictures are obviously consciously chosen for the sole purpose of advertising oneself to acquire someone's attention. The art of posting a profile picture will range from the sexy-provocative to a very realistic filter-free selfie. Some will keep it real while some are really sends a message clear- just there for the sex. 

I had a great time looking at the pictures. Mostly, my kind of fun came from scrutinizing how people portrayed themselves online. Some seek for common grounds in hobbies or interests while some look for real love. I admit that it was kind of addictive because you are just swiping left and right and it was so elating when you have a match. The thrill of someone liking you is just euphoric to one's ego. 

In the course of my Tinder experience, I felt sad. They all talked about into reading books, movies, arts and travelling among other things but when I tried talking about a movie, I was brushed off. Ignored right then and there. So you said you are open to chatting and all that shit but you cannot talk about a movie. Someone told me I have a know it all aura when I start talking about my interests. I do not care. But you liked my picture. You messaged me. When I started talking you changed your mind and decided you cannot talk to me? See? I cannot always be what you want me to be and all I asked a compromise that you make a space for me. So that was it? When the good things are going you stay and leave when reality strikes in? So now I am here feeling judged because of my choices in life? 

Geez. Not all of that was based on my Tinder experience. I suggest people who despise online hook ups to try this. It is another kind of human interaction. Welcome to the age of technology.