Saturday, January 11, 2020

How I Survive My Problems and Celebrate Victories

I notice some people have a habit of talking about their problems. Life being so difficult, issues with people surrounding them and any unfortunate event. 

There was a time in my life when I also love talking about negative issues. Then my ex boyfriend left me for another girl which ended my wedding preparations. The bomb was exploding in my face and I was alone in announcing that there will be no wedding to family, friends, neighbors and a gazillion of relatives. During that time I was in a lot of business deals to raise funds for my wedding. Well, I just invested all my money to make it grow while preparing for my dream wedding. So there, I have no face to show people. I was cashless and ashamed. I was so heartbroken. 

You know what saved me? I never talked about it to anyone in the first weeks that followed. I went to the gym and poured my heart out in working out because that is my release of energy. I cry but only for a minute. My mind was on constant run to rationalizing what just happened to my life. This resulted to an understanding that life will never be perfect. 

Right now, I am in a better place. I want to celebrate this. It may not be in a grand gesture but just the mere fact that I am happy with the girl I see in the mirror. If only others can understand. Talking about your problems is not the solution. It only makes you dwell in the idea that you have a problem.  You have to dig deeper within and just deal with things with what you have. Since you will die someday, why swim in a sea of negative emotions. What if you just embrace courage, faith and love? Maybe you will be fulfilled. You will realize that you are tougher than you think. 

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